When I got married, everyone around me kept asking the same question: “When are you giving us good news?”
The pressure was so much that I felt like I had to prove I could become a mother. Little did I know what was waiting for me.
The Tests Nobody Warns You About
After one year of marriage, I finally went to a gynaecologist. She said we needed to do some tests. I thought it would just be simple blood work. But I was wrong.
The tests included:
- Blood tests (okay, that was fine)
- Uterus scan (not too bad)
- HSG test to check if fallopian tubes are open or blocked
Nobody told me how painful the HSG test would be. They insert a thin tube inside you and pass liquid while taking X-rays. The pain was so unbearable that I couldn’t walk properly for hours. If someone had warned me, I would have prepared myself better maybe taken a painkiller before, or asked my husband to take leave that day.
The doctor also told me my uterus lining was a bit thin and gave me tablets to make it thicker. After all that pain and stress, I decided, “Let’s not worry about kids for now.”
When I Finally Got Pregnant
Then came the surprise. At 6 weeks, I started feeling different morning sickness, tiredness, all the classic symptoms. I took a home pregnancy test and saw two lines. I couldn’t believe it, so I bought two more kits just to be sure.
When I showed the results to my doctor, she confirmed with an HCG blood test. At 6 weeks, we even heard the heartbeat. That tiny sound filled me with joy.
The Day Everything Went Wrong
One evening, everything changed. Suddenly, I felt something unusual and rushed to the washroom. To my shock, clots were falling through my vagina.
I picked one up with my hands, and in that moment, I thought I had lost my baby. I panicked, Googled endlessly, and then rushed to the hospital with my brother.
The doctor said, “We’ll try to save the pregnancy. You need injections and complete bed rest for two months.”
If I had known earlier, I would have:
- Not stressed about small things
- Taken better care of myself
- Understood that some bleeding can be normal
- Known when to panic and when to stay calm
The Long Wait and Bed Rest
Those two months of bed rest felt endless. But slowly, everything became fine. The NT scan was perfect. The TIFFA scan was perfect. All reports were normal.
Delivery Day – Not What I Expected
When it was time for delivery, I tried for normal labor. They induced pains, but after 24 hours and only 4cm dilation, the doctors decided on a C-section for safety.
The operation theatre was scary salines, antibiotics, bright lights. They gave me spinal anesthesia, and half my body went numb.
Then I heard it: my baby’s first cry.
“It’s a boy!” they said. Tears filled my eyes.
When I saw his tiny face, I felt complete. After that, I was put under full anesthesia and remained unconscious for six hours.
The First Feed – Mixed Feelings
When I finally woke up and fed my son for the first time, I was in extreme pain from the surgery. But at the same time, I felt happiness, relief, and love all at once.
Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me
About the costs: Nobody warned me how expensive pregnancy would be tests, medicines, delivery, hospital stay.
Hospital stay: I didn’t know I’d have to stay 4–5 days after a C-section.
Post-surgery care: Instead of arguing with my mom and mother-in-law, I should have listened when they said:
- “Your body will be weak after surgery.”
- “Your teeth will become sensitive.”
- “Stay in a warm place.”
- “Don’t climb stairs.”
The Hardest Part – Going Home
When I was discharged, I climbed three floors with fresh stitches. The pain was terrible, but I was just happy to be home with my baby.
Looking back, I wish I had:
- Asked more questions to my doctor
- Prepared mentally for all possibilities
- Saved money for pregnancy expenses
- Arranged help at home in advance
- Listened to experienced women
- Not panicked about every small thing
What This Experience Taught Me
Pregnancy is not like the dreamy scenes in movies. It’s real, hard, painful, and unpredictable. But the moment you hold your baby, all the struggles feel worth it.
If you’re planning to get pregnant, please:
- Ask your doctor about all possible scenarios
- Prepare financially for unexpected costs
- Build a strong support system
- Don’t hesitate to ask for help
- Trust your body, but also trust medical advice
Every woman’s journey is different. By sharing real experiences, we can help others prepare better.
✨ Remember: It’s okay to be scared. It’s okay to not know everything. But it’s not okay to suffer in silence. Always reach out for help when you need it.
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